MY stance on cursing and hexing others was a firm, NO. My reasoning was that cursing and hexing someone entails focusing harmful energy towards them. As a believer in the law of attraction, I thought that focusing on this type of energy would only keep me in a negative energetic space and attract more harmful experiences into my life.
As my knowledge of energy and my spiritual awareness, I am realizing that most of the information we are receiving about the law of attraction is extremely watered down and basic. My perspectives on magic and the concepts of morality are rapidly shifting.
I recently watched a video, “The Power of Unforgiveness” by Shen Pe Uts Taa-Neter, and damn, did it get me thinking about some things.
Watch this video!
The summary of Shen’s video is:
In spiritual communities, there has been a dominant focus on the power and purpose of forgiving others for their wrongdoings. The logic here is that by forgiving others for their wrongdoings, you ultimately serve and liberate yourself by releasing the weight and pain of that energy. I’ll add my own previous logic that you cannot make anyone do anything, so it is not in your best interest to make your healing process dependent on the confession, repentance, and/or acceptance of a penalty from a violator or abuser.
Shen states that forgiveness requires three things:
A CONFESSION of the wrongdoing
REPENTANCE (stop committing those wrongdoings)
Receiving and accepting a PENALTY
According to Shen, when we simply forgive another for their toxic, violent, problematic energy, we give them A PASS to continue with their actions, we PARDON their energy. We also give a pass for this energy to continue to show up in our lives. Shen also states that even if the perpetrator/violator does not pay a penalty for their actions, according to Universal Law, SOMEONE has to pay. That someone will most likely be YOU. The penalty you pay can take shape in a number of ways. It may come in the form of shame, guilt, and anger that you carry, a blockage of finances, or a repetition of similar experiences.
Shen’s advice? TAKE YOUR POWER BACK. Demand RESTITUTION for the wrongs that others commit against you. Stand toe to toe with that negative energy and make peace with it by seeing it for what it is and DEALING with it appropriately.
As I said earlier, you can demand confession, repentance, and restitution from someone who has wronged you, that doesn’t mean that you will PHYSICALLY get it from that person. But, you can deal with that perpetrator/violator on an ENERGETIC level.
This is where curses and hexes come in.
By hexing someone or performing a spell or ritual to curse or bind the energy of the person who violated, abused, harmed, or hurt you, you hold that person accountable for their actions and you stop that energy from feeding off you and others.
The way that I see it, if someone is intentionally fucking over, hurting, harming, violating, abusing you and/or others, you have a RIGHT to restitution, however you need to get it.
We talk about the karma of performing curses and putting hexes on people, but let’s talk about the karma of pardoning the energy of abusive and toxic people!!
As Shen states, when someone violates you, the only person you need to forgive is YOU for whatever shame or guilt you carried and any of your actions and beliefs that may have invited or allowed that experience into your reality.
"Cast yourself. You are the spell."
Black Femme Witches Brew founder, Jamila Kani, is a witch of many trades. Through her work as an Oracle, Ritual Practitioner, and Life and Spiritual Coach, she guides individuals to reclaim their magic and step into their power as Deliberate Creators.
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